Previously I may have commented on my soon approach to finally graduating from University.Ā I should be studying for my midterm which is tomorrow. Its just very difficult too. My wife side wants to wait for my husband to come home from work so that we can rest but I know it won’t work. In the back of my mind there will be that wonderful voice saying “home work, study, MIDTERM! go go. Why are you ignoring my yelling” then it persists to anxiousness. As you can imagine it basically goes down hill from there. So instead I opted to spend some time here with You all.
Typically I would wonder what to make for my husband’s lunch tomorrow. Many times I don’t actually get to doing it because the day has completely worn me out.Ā Sometimes its because when we cook there is a lot of left overs so we just eat that. When we cook it is typically quick, easy on the fly and soon after we are on the go. My husband is presently a full time student in university and works. Our days are quick, measured by the minute and pretty much a routine. Some times we give or take an hour or so since my family is very last minute on events. Which brings me to the Modern part.
Modern is defined as relating to present (contemporary) and advocates moving away from tradition. What I believe modern should be and what I do my best to practice is the following. To be Modern you should respect tradition but do not need to make other peoples traditions yours. Nor should you be guilt tripped into pleasing other people who have specific traditions. I do not advocate to depart from tradition but I do believe in a middle balance. Some traditions and forms have facts or good reason to be respected. Yet if the tradition belittles people Or Claims that it is better then someone else, then move away from it.
I’ve studied psychology, sociology, science, math, philosophy, religion, theology, apologetic, linguistics, English, hermenutics, pharmacology and herbalisim. One thing that one hundred percent stands out is that middle ground of all types of knowledge can help. What will not help is being one sided, fanatic, hardheaded, close minded and ignorant. So, I push my self to continue being Modern but trying my best to have a balance. It is so easy to be the makes only food wife, the cleans only wife, the very independent wife, the easily offended wife and so on. Yet the one I find hardest to live up to is being a Modern Wife. A wife who studies (still), youthful, young in age, inexperienced, and who wants to still be able to live my age happily.Ā So I have always moved away from tradition and when I was younger adults wrote me off as rebellious. The truth is that “dudes you cramping my personality”. I was simply trying to find me and once I found me. I was able to find a middle ground where I was able to incorporate traditions, values, life goals, culture, that was uplifting and not fake or people pleasing.
I only cared about what people thought, how they wanted things done, how they thought it was cool, nice, legit and acceptable. When I realized how ridiculous some things were and that they contained no legit reason for being a tradition. I got rid of them and made my own. Now as a wife , my husband and I are learning to make New ones together. Sure we may take an idea or two from our personal traditions but that doesn’t mean it has to be one sided. See I learned in everything I’ve studied that no two people are the same and this means that things have to be different. So we collide and create this beautiful thing called a new nuclei (family).
In our field of study my husband and I have to be up with the things that shook the youth. As older people say “hip” things. My husband is learning about Canadian youth culture and how they speak in emojis. Hear me out here, the kids these days send emojis to talk without even talking. When you and I would look at it trust me it would not look like letters but just memes. This is why I kinda have to stay Modern and this is also one of the reasons I’m writing here. I know there are a lot of young women who just want to live their crazy life being youthful and whatnot but we still have to be a wife. We then question ” do I need to change the way I dress? can I still hang out with my girls? why am I the only one my age married? uh am I a bad wife if I cook too much or too little”. Trust me when I say I get it! Of course I’m going to abruptly end my post here and say I’m here for you. Stay Modern and keep Wifing. It will all be okay.
Until next time love always Modern Wife
motto:Live Life Daily and Live it right.